Sunday, April 12, 2009

How not to lose interest in the relationship?

I am such a troubled one when it comes to keeping a long-distance relationship. Ive read this post from a friend. I dont have any idea where in the world she got this. I wanted to share this article to give some light to those who are somehow of the same stat as me so I am reposting such.

Relationships are like delicate plants. They need lots of attention, proper care and committed interest to survive. There's no question about it, it is a greater challenge to maintain the same level of passion and interest in a long distance relationship than it is in a conventional relationship. Although both types of relationship take a considerable amount of work, LDRs are a little more complicated mostly because partners don’t have the luxury of everyday face-to-face communication. The long separation periods and lonely evenings can really take a toll on your distance relationship and your disposition towards what you have with your sweetie. However, it is in your and your partner’s hands to turn the situation around and work together to keep your relationship alive and kicking.

• Communicate and visit often
Communication is essential to all relationships, especially LDRs. It is the key to stay connected and keep your level of intimacy growing. To ensure that your long distance relationship survives, you need to communicate daily with your partner. You can do it in every way possible, from phone calls to text messages and from e-mails to webcam sessions. Just a simple message of "Good morning, I was thinking about you!" can do wonders for your partner, helping to give them a bit of a boost in the mornings, reassure them about your feelings while it can motivate them to do the same thing for you. Send emails, letters, and cards. Don't discount the impact that your written words can have on your partner feeling connected to you. And of course don’t hold back if you just feel like calling to say I love you. Improvise and be creative.
In addition, make sure you visit each other as often as possible. It makes the biggest difference in the world when you get the chance to spend some time together. It will fuel your passion and remind you why it is worth it trying for your relationship.

• Remind each other why you are in a LDR
The reasons you started your long-distance relationship are important.

The way you feel about each other, the companionship, the friendship, the things you found most attractive in your partner. You need to remind yourself and your partner of these reasons on a fairly regular basis. Being physically apart can make both partners feel disconnected and often the emotional pain of being away from each other can overcome the joy you feel when you are together. Be romantic and make little gestures that remind both of you of the good times you have together. Keep a journal with the good times or a scrapbook with beautiful pictures of your life as a couple and share them, talk about them and cherish them. This will surely keep you motivated and remind you why you got in this relationship in the first place.

Long distance dating is not the easiest thing in the world but instead of focusing on the negative aspects, you should think about all the positive ones. Just remember that couples in LDRs are often more passionate about each other and more interested in their relationships because they have to try for it. Everything in long distance relationships is more challenging and evokes strong feelings, both negative and positive. Take advantage of this and work on it as a basis to keep the flame alive even if you are plenty of miles away from each other.

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